Emotional maturity....

Got this in a group email from "Gems of wisdom" series.. found it worthy sharing as we all need this for better health and management of things....just copy pasting it hoping that you all will like it!

The husband and wife gifted themselves a new car for their first wedding anniversary. They drove downtown, watched a movie, and finally returned home. They didn't have the garage facility. So the car was parked in the street. To their utter shock, when they woke up the next morning, the car was missing. The car was stolen. First car, first wedding anniversary gift, and they had enjoyed the car for just a day. The wife couldn't take it. With misty eyes she sank into the sofa. The husband too was a little jolted, but he said, “The car is lost. You can feel heavy about it. You can take it easy. Either way the car is lost. Then, why not take it easy.” She gave him a cold stare and the moment passed.

A logical question: When the car, how can anyone take it easy? But what else can you do? Feel heavy, if you want; take it easy, if you want - either way, after the emotional outburst, what has to be done has to be done. In this case, the police complaint has to be lodged; the insurance has to be claimed… what has to be done has to be done.

You left the milk a little longer than required on the gas stove. The boiled milk is beginning to overflow from all sides of the vessel. Scream, wail, screech, get tensed, and let your BP to shoot up…let your home's atmosphere spoil... after all the emotional outbursting, now what? You will switch the stove off, offload the milk vessel and clean the kitchen countertop. In addition you may loose atleast tiny judgement by getting tensed.So, eventually what has to be done will be done.

Here we are not discussing about not being emotional, but about avoiding the dramatic emotional reactions. Emotional maturity - yes! Emotional Outburst - no!

Emotional maturity is not about avoiding emotions, but it is about avoiding the emotional outbursts . Anyways, what has to be done has to be done. Then, why getting worried?

 
Thanks.
 
Gopi Gandi.